(from m-w.com)
Main Entry: cel·i·ba·cy 
Pronunciation: 'se-l&-b&-sE
Function: noun
1 : the state of not being married
2 a : abstention from sexual intercourse b : abstention by vow from marriage
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I’ve gotten more than a few questions about this, so here’s the explanation.
My current activities include:
- Apartment Manager
- Writing a second novel
- Writing a new BIG roleplaying game
- Running a small business
- Writing a second screenplay
- Trying to get my first screenplay sold
- Playing drums in The Awful Lot
- Being the best friend I can
That’s a lot to do, and, frankly, there really is no room for a significant other in there. Even more frankly: the reason I can accomplish all of this is because I do not have a significant other.
When I’m in a relationship, I devote a lot of time to it. I think of cool things to do. I organize surprises, buy gifts, the whole nine yards. I don’t take it lightly. In fact, I don’t take anything lightly. (Except being a Discordian, which requires I take everything both lightly and heavily and don’t even ask me to explain that.)
I once called myself “a method writer.” It’s true. I embrace the subject I’m writing about like a dagger through my heart, right up to the hilt. I’d push it further if I could. Maybe I should take that damn hilt off. Nah, that’s there so I can pull it back out again. Otherwise, it’d stay there forever.
Now, a few have asked me, “How about casual sex?” (Strange: the only ones who have asked me this are women. No man has asked me this question yet. Although, I’m certain some smart ass will jump up and ask it now. Smart ass.)
Nah, the casual thing never did it for me. Like most things in my life–and especially now with this “magic” thing–I’m obsessed with meaning. Doing something for the sake of doing it, like sex, is pretty empty of meaning. Context is important. Without it, the whole situation is just what Campbell called, “a yearning of the loins for each other.” And while that can be fun, my current attitude about life, the universe, and everything (which can be found over at lordstrange) doesn’t really subscribe to meaningless actions of random happenstance.
If I’m going to do something, I’m going to do it for a reason. Not just because I want to, but because it adds meaning to my life. (See here for a better explanation.)
So, in a nutshell, that’s why I’m staying on the sex wagon. (That sounds awful. Yuch.) Not that I haven’t had opportunities, but for now, I’m content to re-channel all that sexual energy into my writing, my band, my game design, etc. It’s working so far.
(By the way, did I mention I also want to write a gospel? Like, a real gospel. Like, the ones you find in, you know, The Bible. I also want to do a new edition of the Principia Discordia. Oh, and there’s this side band project Sheldon and I have been joking about. And there’s also this other thing that I can’t quite talk about yet because it involves other people. And there’s sky diving. I haven’t tried that yet…)